Dating within the aa program
Newcomers shudder at the prospect of never (ever, ever) being able to drink again. Even more importantly, if I, after 31 years, 2 months, and 4 days, fall off the wagon, what have I lost? It makes it easier to clamber back on again, and go for that 90 day chip. Respect the first tradition: anonymity Which, of course, is what I’m flagrantly not doing here. I've been in and out of the program for quite a while.I personally never agreed with some of the rules and suggestions.The biggest one was that you shouldn't date for your first year of sobriety.
Keep it simple Supposedly the last words of AA's founder, Bill W (ilson). ‘Perhaps the Day after Tomorrow’ another proverb promises. But the rules have relaxed since the patriarchs, Bill W.Men and women learn a lot in recovery, not just about staying sober but living a happy, satisfying life.They don’t need to be taken care of; they learned how to do that for themselves.The way I see it is that you can't stop living life. I know this is only my opinion but I feel pretty strongly about it.Just because you're sober doesn't mean a relative won't pass away in the first year or that you won't lose your job in the first year. Jay- I didn't date in my first year, I needed some time to work on myself.
Recovering addicts don’t expect perfection in their partners, having learned firsthand that it doesn’t exist.